Life Lessons From A Confused & Indecisive 24 Year Old (Day 1)

Why should a confused and indecisive "adult" be giving anyone life lessons? Because even today when I do not know where I am going and do not know where my next move will be there are things that I have learned. Everywhere you turn you see huge success stories of people who just so happened to wake up one day with the next million dollar idea. They sell (insert random product or book here) and work a few hours a week, travel the world, have famous friends and say a million inspiring things. What we never ever read about is those people who know they want more, they know they aren't made out for the corporate world but do not know what to do. WE listen to these successful people and they tell us to work and hustle and just put in more time. More time into what??? How do we know what to put time into? Do I go back to school for environmentalism, dietetics, teaching or do I start my own business? Please million dollar man tell me what to do.

All that being said there are a lot of things that I have learned that are making me work hard for whatever it is that I end up doing. There are a lot of things that I have learned and I want to be a voice to people out there lost in this world of too many options scared to make a decision think it is the wrong one.

No Decision You Make is Wrong. Life is not a dress rehearsal so there are no "wrong" decisions. Yes, we all make choices that are not the best but that is the choice we made and so we have to move forward. We do not get to see how a choice plays out and then press reset if we don’t like it. So own each choice you make, be proud and confident in yourself and trust that you make each choice for a reason known or unknown to you.

Fall in Love. I am finding myself really needing to talk my own advice here. Do not be scared. Not having love, not feeling love is a shame. Love is beautiful and fulfilling. So drop your stupid excuses of “I was hurt”, “I’m scared”, “Will anyone love me?” and just let yourself feel. Let people in your life know you love them because, and here comes the cheesy cliché, they will be gone someday.

Do Not Let Yourself Feel Trapped. You are not stuck anywhere so any excuses you have to that degree are wasted energy. Want to move? Move. Want to quit? Quit. And yes it is that simple. Like I just said any excuse you make like “but money”, “but security” is all in your head. You will be fine.

Take Control of Your Life. Your parents don’t want you to follow your crazy far-fetched dream? Shame on them. This is YOUR life and your story in written by you. If you want to spend your time here not offending people, playing it safe or people-pleasing than more (or less) power to you. It is ok to be a little selfish.

Read Books. Research people who are living lives you admire and learn from them. Read a lot of non-fiction. Continue to learn and educate yourself on what interests you.

Make Decisions. From the indecisive girl this is a true point. You will get nowhere if you do not learn to commit to decisions. I get it decisions are hard you are making a commitment to something and you don’t know if it will work out. Not making decisions though means staying floating in one spot forever because nothing is pushing you in any direction at all. Start small, make the dinner plans, clean out your closet and continue to consciously make decisions every single day. This will make you feel more confident in making bigger life decisions.

Do Not Be Afraid To Put Time Into What You Want. Scared of working on your side interests at work? Do it! Nervous your friends will never speak to you if you skip dinner to research and learn? Think again your friends are better than that. Don’t want to miss the latest episode? Guess what you have your own REAL life to live. Scared to leave a job to have time to work on what you want? There will always always be another job.

Know That You Are Going Somewhere. If you have the personality and drive of someone who wants more out of life than know that you will never settle. Right now you might feel like you have so much wasted energy and that you are bound to live a lifeless life but know that you have it in you to do more. Trust the process your life is taking.